Why Darren LaCroix is the Nicest Guy In The World or How I Flashed the 2001 World Champion of Public Speaking - Part I

PART I

In 2001, Darren LaCroix beat out 25,000 other speakers to become the World Champion of Public Speaking. Since that time, he has spoke to companies and audiences around the world, authored books, and presented speaking boot camps.

Darren is the keynote speaker this weekend at our Toastmaster District 37 Spring Conference. Earlier this week, one of our District officers asked if I could drive Darren to a 5:45 a.m. TV interview he had with WXII. Although it meant getting up at 3:30, I didn’t mind. Shepherding people is a great way to get face time with busy individuals, and I was interested in talking to Darren about his speaking.

What many of you may not know is that I am directionally challenged. Severely. I’ll get lost in the bathroom if there’s not a sign on the toilet pointing me toward the shower. So in preparation, I mapquested directions from my house to Darren’s hotel, as well as from the hotel to WXII.

I should have been warned when the directions to the hotel were off. Mapquest had me turning the wrong way down a one-way street. I circled the block and managed to find my way there. Met Darren in the lobby. Very nice man in a lovely suit. We walked to my car, which I’d parked under the awning as it was pouring rain.

So we set off in the dark and the rain—neither, by the way, which I can see in. I try to avoid driving at night and in the rain whenever possible. But whatever.

Mapquest said to take Cherry Street to Marshall Street. But the first street we came to was Marshall. Yea! This would be easier than I thought. I turned on Marshall and within a mile we dead-ended in a construction parking lot. Okaaay. I must have gone the wrong way on Marshall. I turn the car around and start back up the street. Only when I pass through a traffic light do I realize that I’m going the wrong way down a one-way street.

Crap, crap, crap. I’m trying to appear calm and in control and Darren—world’s nicest guy—is acting like he believes me. But we both suspect we’re screwed.

We start back at the hotel and follow the mapquest directions. We get on Cherry Street but guess what? Marshall runs parallel to Cherry and there’s no way to turn on it. In desperation, I call Blair. Thankfully, Cherry Street was correct and that took us right to WXII.

Speaking at Well Spring

My friend Pam and I spoke last night at Well Spring Assisted Living Community on the topic of "Passing Down Your Family Stories." We gave an hour-long talk on how to find the inspiration to write, how to stir memories, the importance of adding details and the five senses to your work...

It was great. I always feel a little jittery when I go into a retirement community. Blair's dad was in assisted living, but a lot of the people in his home were far gone, mentally. That was not the case last night. These people are brilliant. One woman has 40 years of college professorship behind her and has published hundreds of articles on speech pathology. She is also a psycho-drama coach and shared stories of how she would engage high school kids in Shakespeare and Beowulf when she briefly taught high school English.

Another woman said she didn't think she had anything interesting to write about, then proceeded to tell us about the five kids she'd raised. Another woman taught senior yoga and had the outlines of a book in her mind and was ready to start writing. I gave her my card so we could talk through her project.

Several of the attendees had already started jotting down stories or memories and just weren't sure how to organize them.  Overall, it was an incredibly fun evening for us, and inspiring. As I said, after I found out the background of people there, I felt like they should be the ones standing up and lecturing. There were several that are natural storytellers that I could have listened to for hours.

Well Springs is a beautiful community. Lush grounds, gourmet food, and we spoke in a stunning auditorium. I'd welcome the chance to return.

The Great To Do List

I haven't posted one of my famous annoying standard to-do lists in some time, and I worry your lives are lacking for it. Therefore, today's post is a look inside the cluttered "to do" mind of your world-famous (kinda sorta) cat author friend:

  • RSVP to an April 26th Foster Friends of NC luncheon.
  • Call the running store and see if I can switch my half-marathon race to the 5k on the 26th in order to attend above luncheon.
  • Figure out who's home I can shower at in GSO on the 26th after the race so I can go to the luncheon.
  • Write first draft of an article for www.Dogtwist.com.
  • Call the event coordinator for the 2008 National Women's Music Festival. The event features women in the arts and there is an "animal lovers" series for which I might present. But I need to know if there is a travel stipend, can books be sold, what I'd speak on, etc.
  • If I do sign up for above event, pull together speech/workshop--pronto!
  • Write outline for a May 14th presentation on writing. Send to my co-host for comments/reviews.
  • Remember the ding letter I got on a book proposal? I e-mailed the query and the agent has expressed an interest! She wants details on chapter structure and outline and what I plan to do with the book. Sigh. If only I knew...  Must get to library and do research and start writing sample chapters!!!!
  • Organize my research for article I'm writing on canine glaucoma.
  • Call my next door neighbor and see if he wants to attend "Free Friday Yoga" with me.
  • Work on book proposal for "Kiss My Kitty Butt."
  • I'm considering a "Kiss My Kitty Butt" calendar -- look into details on how to accomplish this.
  • Trademark "Kiss My Kitty Butt?"
  • Set out tape recorder hooked into phone so I can be ready if my canine glaucoma interviews call unexpectedly.
  • Buy a graduation card for a friend's daughter.
  • Call everyone I know because I've shamefully ignored them for weeks and am lucky to still have those who will call me "friend."
  • E-mail friend about a book I hope she has on publishing that I want to borrow.
  • Quit making lists and go do some actual work.

Cheers!

Life Creeps In, Life Creeps Out

At the start of 2008, I vowed to devote myself to bettering my writing. To take a "writer's journey" and explore new genres and interests while simultaneously striving to improve on the basics such as grammar, use of simile and metaphor, attention to detail, etc.

I dropped much of my paid work and cleared my schedule. But I've noticed life has a way of creeping in. And what starts out as a month with no committment other than to write suddenly becomes filled with meetings, speeches, workshops, lunches, assignments, and other obligations.

This month, for example, I agreed to:

  • Give a speech in my advanced Toastmasters club
  • Create a tri-board for the club (the accursed thing still isn't complete)
  • Write two 600-word assignments for a regional publication.
  • Write a monthly article for a UK-based dog site, www.dogtwist.com
  • Organize long runs for my running group
  • Teach a 2 hour networking workshop at the Women's Resource Center
  • Attend an all-day marketing brainstorming meeting for a friend
  • Facilitate a 2-hour Saturday writing workshop for kids in the foster care system
  • Attend a concert of my neice's in Raleigh
  • Attend as a guest a women-only networking/mentoring club
  • Wrangle out the details of a dental claim with our insurance company
  • 2 doctor appointments, one trip to the vet, 2 races, 1 massage (had a coupon), 2 lunches with friends, one dinner out.

Looking ahead to March, I already have a book signing at a local libary and a book launch party to attend for a friend. The rest of the month appears gloriously free of commitment. And I aim to keep it that way. I've discovered that when I have a free schedule, it's so easy to agree to "stuff." I think, "Well, I certainly have time to fit a speech or a tri-board into my month." But I say that 10 times and then--oops!--the month is full and I didn't focus on what I said I wanted to focus on.

So... back to hibernation. It's a game of push and pull. I do too much... I cut back... I let life creep in... I push back. On a bright note, however, I've done over 50,000 new words of creative writing since the start of the new year. That's probably more than I did all last year combined. So I'm getting there. It's just a matter of deciding WHAT I want to spend my time on, WHY that's important to me, and then sticking to it.

Here's a quote I love:

"Let the act of changing be the reward, and do not count on the outcome, for it may well be far different than you ever imagined."